Life’s milestone anniversaries are significant. They serve as a reminder of significant occasions, both culturally and personally. An anniversary places a pin on the calendar to remind us of something that significant to us, whether we are commemorating a birthday, a wedding or civil partnership, a historic event, or the death of a loved one. It provides an opportunity to consider a relationship or cultural identity, to join together to remember a deceased loved one, or to rejoice in a happy occasion. Whatever the anniversary, it provides an opportunity for us to consider how the event has shaped us as a result of the years that have passed since it occurred. Understanding who we are might often involve recalling the past (but not letting it define us). Many times, anniversaries bring up a range of feelings. For instance, there may be pressure to do something extraordinary to commemorate a wedding anniversary. However, it might be a great way to refocus your relationship. One approach to remember why you fell in love in the first place is to do something as easy as eating dinner together and reflecting on the day you met, got engaged, got married, or celebrated your union. In a relationship, it’s crucial to set aside time for one another, but it’s inevitable that life will occasionally get in the way. Life conspires against us with work, chores, and running the kids to and from school; all too frequently, our relationship suffers as a result. A nice reason to reflect on your relationship and perhaps make some resolutions for the coming year is an anniversary. (See Fernanda Barros’ essay on “attraction and the five love languages” on our site for some excellent advice on how to communicate love in a relationship.) Don’t forget to celebrate the things that are important to you on other days as well. Of course, it’s wonderful to enjoy the big day with fireworks and flowers, parties, and presents.
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