Conflict occurs in every marriage, despite the fact that few couples like to admit it. We’ve had our fair share of arguments, and some of them haven’t been pretty. On what to avoid doing, we could probably write a whole book! Let’s start with two egotistical individuals from diverse backgrounds and personalities. Add some odd quirks and bad habits, a ton of expectations, and then turn up the heat a little with the struggles of daily life. What’s this? You will inevitably run into problems. It cannot be avoided. Since conflicts arise in every marriage, the key is how you handle them rather than trying to avoid them. Conflict can trigger a process that results in isolation or oneness. You and your spouse must decide how you will behave in tense situations. Understanding, accepting, and adjusting to your differences are necessary for conflict resolution. The fact that opposites attract is one reason we have conflict in our marriage. Typically, a task-oriented person marries a more people-oriented person. People who live their lives quickly often find themselves married to more leisurely individuals. It’s odd, but that’s a factor in why you wed the person you did. Your life now has variety, spice, and difference that it didn’t have before thanks to your spouse. However, the attractions turn into repellents after a while (or sometimes just a short while) of marriage. You may argue over minor irritations like the proper way to squeeze a tube of toothpaste or over significant philosophical differences like how to handle money or raise kids. You might discover that your personalities and backgrounds are so dissimilar that you question how and why God brought the two of you together in the first place.