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Even though you are his or her parent, your youngster is unlikely to have concrete memories of you from a year ago as an adult or older child would. It takes a baby between 7 and 9 months to grasp that an object exists even when it is hidden from view. Even at the age of two, studies have discovered that a youngster who is separated from an important individual, such as a reliable caretaker, becomes quite worried. Children simply recall things in a different way. As a result, your child may not know you at first, and he or she may not even respond positively.
The second factor over which you have no influence is your child’s reaction to your absence. The panelists are unaware of the circumstances behind your divorce, but they are aware that not all divorces are amicable or even neutral. If yours didn’t, you should be aware that your child may be conflicted about you, and may be puzzled or even furious. You should be prepared to answer your child’s queries about why you left or stayed away as honestly and simply as possible. Consider that during your absence, he or she may have heard things about you that make him or her cautious of you, and that such things “may be the only recollection that a child has at that age.” Finally, many children of your child’s age like following a routine. They enjoy doing the same things with the same people at the same time. They enjoy having the same bedtime story read to them night after night, and the reader who tries to change or skip a single page or paragraph will be punished. Even if you have the best of intentions and love your child with all of your heart and soul, you will always be odd and unusual in his or her eyes. Even though the change you’re bringing to his or her life appears to be beneficial to him or her, you’ve still upset his or her apple cart, and he or she may not see things your way. While the panelists don’t advise you to expect outright rejection, they do suggest that you temper your expectations for your first meeting. The parent must set aside the grownup urge to be liked and accepted right away.

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