Some issues in marriage seem to never be resolved. Couples in this situation frequently argue over the same issues. But this is not necessarily the case. If a consistent process is used, the majority of conflicts can be resolved. While initially appearing to take a lot of time, these steps actually end up saving countless hours of exhausting arguing and avoiding. Additionally, if a problem is left unattended to, it will eventually become out of control. Environment, regulations, and limits Start the conversation in a public place that is neutral, like a restaurant. Set a time limit, concentrate on just one issue, keep your cool, and, if necessary, agree to disagree. Choose not to use manipulative language, to disparage ideas, or to call anyone names. Concur on the issue Each person should explain the issue as they perceive it. Then search for a bigger problem and any underlying needs or fears. At a time, choose one battle. collecting data Using SWOT (strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, threats). Think of remedies At first, concentrate on remaining positive, exercising creativity, and remaining in the moment. Be careful not to criticize, but rather to welcome unconventional solutions. Next, concentrate on solving problems, developing concepts, and fusing ideas. Negotiate Be hard on the issue and soft on the person as you work toward a cooperative resolution. Then, emphasize areas of agreement and make explicit agreements regarding minor points. Be prepared to ask for forgiveness or grant it if necessary. Now is the time to let go of things that are unimportant. The most important thing is to give everyone a chance to speak and listen. Do something Choose one concept, and decide when you want to start. Then decide on evaluation window and completion date.