One of the best definitions of love is found in the Bible in 1st Corinthians 13, a great book for forever love. It says, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy; it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others; it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Who wouldn’t want a love like this?
When you fall in love with someone, these are the characteristics that define your relationship. You are kind to the person, patient with them with your whole heart, even if they cross a line. You never feel hate towards them. You do not envy them, and you are not boastful about yourself. You focus on meeting the needs of the other person instead of focusing on your own needs being met. You love them unconditionally, with your whole heart. And, true love means you are willing to forgive them when they do wrong, and you are not happy when they are hurting. When their heart is breaking, your heart is breaking too. You trust them, and you are always hopeful in your relationship. But, most importantly according to these verses, love always perseveres. That means when these other character traits are in place, there is a forever love. You can also feel when your partner is extending forever love to you. It goes beyond just feeling tolerated or appreciated; you can feel deeply loved when you see how your partner is a stone foundation and a north star when you feel confused. Or you can see how they are constantly reaching out to you with love, even when you know you’re not acting in a particularly loveable way. You can hear it in their voice and understand it in their words and actions toward you.