Prioritize open communication, think about couples counseling to address the underlying cause of the lying, learn to spot the warning signs of deception, and evaluate the effect on your relationship before determining whether to work on restoring trust or to move on, depending on the extent of the deception and your individual needs. These are some strategies to “survive” a husband’s deception. Recognize your emotions: Feeling betrayed is a legitimate reaction to deceit, so don’t minimize your grief and rage. Free exchange of ideas: Talk to your husband and let him know you need to be honest and that you have concerns. Find trends: Keep an eye out for any patterns or circumstances in which your spouse frequently acts dishonestly. To learn the causes of the dishonesty and work on restoring trust, think about couples counseling. Establish limits: Make it clear to your husband what conduct is unacceptable and what you anticipate from him going ahead. Discover how to spot deception: Learn the typical verbal and nonverbal clues that could indicate dishonesty. Self-analysis: Consider whether there are any aspects of your situation that may have unintentionally fostered the lying. Think about your options: You may need to choose between working on the relationship, going to individual therapy, or considering separation, depending on how serious the lie was.
